Posted by: Deborah Drezon Carroll | July 17, 2010

What’s Your Personality Color?


Recently, Tamra took a class for teachers about how to analyze their students’ personalities so that they can better understand each one’s learning style. She liked the method so much that she eagerly came over to analyze each of us. Okay, I admit, we are the kind of folks who clearly love to talk about ourselves and we take a great deal of pleasure in judging others, so this activity was a sure winner.

Turns out, it was fun and fascinating. Tam asked us about 70 questions assessing things like if we saw ourselves as opportunistic or traditional, responsible or harmonious, inventive or competent, dramatic or determined, composed or impulsive. Did we rehearse phone calls before initiating them? Did we plan activities in advance or go by the seat of our pants? Based on our answers, a personality profile is formed, indicating what we’re really like.

Alexis and I turned out to be “blue.” We’re emotional and sensitive, creative, and not so fabulous in the planning/detail area of life.

Ned and Tamra? Well, they’re mostly “gold.” They excel in planning and detail and they’re not too comfortable with a spontaneous approach to life.

Shira was in a world of her own. She’s “orange” with a side of “blue.” She’s more spontaneous than the rest of us but she also has a strong sensitive side.

I think parents could benefit from similarly assessing themselves and their children. Knowing what makes your kids “tick” could make a difference in the way you deal with them. Plus, knowing how you function empowers you to use your strengths to overcome your weaknesses. While this isn’t the test we took, I found a couple online that are similar if you’d like to try one. http://www.outofservice.com/bigfive/ and www.personaldna.com.

Alexis Writes:
I wasn’t surprised with the results of my personality test. Mostly, because before I even knew anything about it Tamra said “You are so blue.” I am okay with being a blue. Many of my personality aspects are what make me a pretty good teacher. Sometimes my sensitive side overtakes me but I think for the most part it brings more good than bad. I’m not spontaneous but I don’t really want to be. If I could work on an aspect of my personality it would probably organization. Everything doesn’t have to be in its exact place in my world and it bothers people sometimes. My husband took the test too and it turns out that he was a gold, so he picks up the slack in the planning department. However, I think maybe he lied on some of his answers, I feel pretty sure that he’s a green. Regardless of whatever color you are, I think nothing is wrong with looking at who you are and deciding what you value about yourself and what you’d like to improve. All your children could benefit with reflection on who they are and who they’d like to be.

Tamra Writes:
I think it is important to know what kind of person you are, and to understand that the people you encounter in life in many cases, are going to be different from you. It’s something we have to deal with, and if you understand where people are coming from, while you might disagree, at least you know why they are being the way they are. When I started this class, I knew what color I was going to be. I know that I need routine and plans and details are very important to me. I know I am not spontaneous and I like things neat and orderly (wow, I sound fun), and I wasn’t looking forward to learning about all these really annoying things that are a part of my personality. But in order to get the 3 credits, I had to suck it up and start analyzing. There are definitely good things about being “gold,” and there are things that I wish I could change. Learning about the other personalities gave me an idea of what the other people in my family were like. It was pretty easy to know what they were all going to come out to be. There are things that I would like to work on, like being more flexible with plans and maybe being more spontaneous and doing something without knowing in advance. Perhaps I would even like to be less judgmental (but what fun would that be?) and more open-minded in some cases. All in all, it was a good learning experience. We all operate differently, which is what makes things interesting. And most importantly, now I know I can’t date anyone who is “orange,” it would never work out, sorry boys.

Shira Writes:
First of all, I was more blue than orange; that information is incorrect. Tamra just decided that she thought I would be more orange, but that was not the actual result. While I was taking the test, Tamra commented that I was “all over the place.” Apparently my answers did not really fit neatly into one color, and I have to say I was not surprised. In my social life, when I’m among friends, I am spontaneous and don’t try to plan things too much. From a social standpoint, I think too much planning leads to not enough fun, and then what is the point? I may not be as sensitive as Alexis (no one is), but I certainly have my moments. I’ve been known to cry at cell phone commercials (you must know the one with the little girl and the stuffed monkey). I think being a “blue” is a big part of what makes someone a good teacher. Professionally, I try to be as organized as possible. I’ve developed a system for searching and applying for jobs that I think maximizes the number of opportunities I have. I kept my classroom as neat and orderly as possible, and couldn’t leave work until my desk was clear. My dad told me recently that I was surprised by how little I need to prepare for job interviews, but I think reciting a rehearsed answer makes it sound like I don’t really know what I’m talking about. I’d rather not sound like a robot when I’m trying to impress people. Like Alexis, I would probably benefit from more organization in other aspects of my life. If I go to the supermarket without a list, I am guaranteed to forget everything I didn’t write down. I guess it is important to understand that even people in families as close as ours can have really different personalities. Alexis, Tamra and I are often being confused for each other by people who don’t know us well, so it’s nice to have some concrete evidence that we are not actually interchangeable. And I would love to find a nice “orange” boy.

Tamra Writes:
The last thing Shira needs is an “orange” boy.

Ned Writes:
If green means money why don’t you guys try for a “green” boy?

Mom Writes:

I think it’s valuable to think about the people you grew up to be. Plus, knowing what you are like should help you all to raise kids you understand a bit.

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Responses

  1. When Ned mentions a “green” boy doesn’t he really mean a Martian?

    • Well, men are from Mars, isn’t that what they say?

  2. You got it! By the way I just had the big 31 with my favorite Martian. Also, I took the personaldna test and I would say it is was about 90% correct. My favorite line in the report is, “Although you’re detail-oriented, this doesn’t mean that you lost the big picture.” I know that is me.

  3. Oh yeah, you are big picture for sure. Happy 31. That’s a long time. We’re still ahead of you (36 this year) but you are catching up. How did we all do it?

  4. Debby, I can’t post it 🙂

  5. I’ll have to try your test. We had taken a color profile at one of our NIE retreats and it really made me look at myself. In that test I was totally RED – very task oriented. Like going through the grocery store intent on your list, “bulldozing” your way through. It made me laugh because one of my former editors was a “wimpy little” guy and one day as I was heading from one end of the building to the other and cutting through editorial he actually jumped out of the aisle as I passed by!! I’ve tried to watch myself ever since and not come on so strong!

    • I always find it fascinating that as we get older, we can still learn so much about ourselves. And, then, we may even be wise enough to do something with that knowledge, as you are.

  6. I have done this test before. It’s quite neat. I hope to do an article about the same topic particularly for parents and children who are completely different. It is a great way to know how to deal with someone and can be applied throughout life.

    Neat.

    Lisa

    • I think a parenting article about this is a fantastic idea. Wish I’d had something like that when the girls were little.

  7. Very interesting! Wouldn’t it be great if parents could test their newborns? It certainly would have helped the relationship I have with my oldest daughter. BTW… I took one of the tests you suggested and it was right on target.

  8. We all found it amazing how “on target” these tests turned out to be. We also learned some interesting things about each other and had a lot of laughs. All in all, a good activity. Could be introduced to the in-laws next Thanksgiving!

  9. I am visiting your blog from the 31DBBB. I love the idea of your blog!! I have a son and a daughter and I am always open to ways to make my life easier…especially parenting advice. I really enjoyed your post about our personalities. I think it is interesting to see, for now, how I dictate some of my personality on my kids. (they are 3 1/2 and 1 1/2). I am an organized person and I am trying to instill that in them…well at least by keeping their toys picked up.

  10. So glad you stopped by. I believe that our children are born with their personalities intact for the most part but I also think we can surely help guide them in some ways and starting at an early age to have them pick up their toys is a great choice. Even if they don’t end up being the most organized kids on the block, they’ll perhaps be the neatest ones!

  11. What lovely daughters you have! I’m a teacher, too, so I am eager to try this in my own classroom (but not that eager for school to start…).

    Maybe Shira is a rainbow. Rainbows are beautiful! 🙂

    • I love the idea of Shira being a rainbow. We had one hanging over her crib when she was a baby. Maybe it worked its way in. Thanks for your kind words about my girls. And, they’re with you… they love their jobs but aren’t so anxious for the year to start.

  12. I love your blog and all its voices – hilarious. Such gorgeous girls!

    The dinner table must totally be a kick in your house 🙂

  13. Thanks so much. Yes, our dinners are quite hilarious. Guests remark that they love joining us because they don’t have to speak. They just sit back and enjoy the show!

  14. I found my way over here from SITS, and you really have a unique thing going on here! Your daughters are lovely and it is really unique to hear so many different points of view in a single post.

    I’ve always loved those color tests — mine is usually heavy on the creative side. Every time I read the results, I always feel like “Yup, that is me!”

    • Thanks for enjoying our “points of view.” I hope you’ll stop back on our actual SITS day, which is Wednesday, July 28.

  15. I have taken this test before at different times, I have been a blue with some gold…I look forward to reading more…found you from SITS! Enjoy your day!You all deserve it!

    • Thanks for thinking we deserve recognition. Please stop back on Wed., July 28, our actual SITS day. We’ll be ready for you then, I promise.

  16. I’m sure I’d be a bit of everything… is there an online test for this? Happy SITS day! 🙂

    • We’re all a bit of every color, right? Like a rainbow. Hope you’ll come back by on Wed., July 28, our real SITS day. We’ll be rolling out the welcome mat for sure.

  17. Happy SITS Day!

    Just some thoughts: I’ve taken several “personality tests” (mostly for jobs) and while they are valuable for making people think about themselves, I think they also pigeon-hole individuals. That makes it too easy for for others to judge you based on some arbitrary “test” rather than who you really are.

    • You have a point. The tests are mostly just for fun. It’s uncanny, though, in some cases how closely they mirrored us. Hope you’ll visit again on Wed., July 28. That’s our real SITS day. Today was some kind of mix up.

  18. happy sits day and no clue on my color

    • Perhaps you, too, are a rainbow. Please come back by on Wed., July 28. That’s our real SITS day.

  19. I’ve taken that test before. Can’t remember what it said but I do remember that I felt it was accurate! 🙂 Happy SITS day!

    • They are surprisingly accurate. That’s why they’re fun. Hope you’ll come visit again on our true SITS day. It’s Wednesday, July 28.

  20. I think I would be blue and gold with a touch of orange.

    Wishing a Happy SITS Day to you all! Congrats! 🙂

    • Thanks for the congrats. Please visit again on Wednesday, 7/28 That’s our actual SITS day!

  21. I’ve never seen the “color” version of a personality test, but I’m familiar with the DISC version and one or two others. I love your blog; my girls are 20 and 17, and I’ll be back!

    • Well, if you’re coming back, I hope it’s this Wednesday, 7/28. That’s our actual SITS day and we’ll be ready then!

  22. Happy SITS day!

    I love the idea for your blog, it’s so interesting to hear all your opinions. I’ve heard of tests like this before, it’s amazing how they work for some people and not for others.

    Have a lovely day,
    Jade

    • I am having a lovely, day, thanks. It’ll be even better on Wednesday, 7/28 so please stop back and see what’s in store!

  23. Happy SITS day to you! Love the idea of your blog! I myself have three daughters (and then a son) but they are not grown yet. 🙂 With a background in Human Resources and Development…these types of tests are always something fun and there seems to be an element of truth in many of them. Have a terrific Monday

    • I’m so glad you like the concept. Please stop back on Wednesday, 7/28. It’s our real SITS day and we’ll have something fun going on.

  24. Stopping by from SITS. This blog rocks! I love the way you’ve set it up and that everyone contributes. I don’t have daughters but I still love the different perspectives. I am a new follower. Thanks!

    • Thanks! We love new followers more than almost anything. (well, except red wine and chocolate.) Please stop back on Wednesday, July 28. That’s our real SITS day and we’ll have a whole story then. Plus, you get special thanks for “This Blog ROCKS.” I think I’m going to use that as a promo from now on!

  25. I think I am green. I love it. Much of my clothing is green, my kitchen is painted green and I adore growing plants which are, of course, GREEN!
    Now I just need to click your link and figure out what green means.
    Hopefully it isn’t something bad. LOL

    Happy SITS Day! I’m glad I found your blog…I love it!

    • Don’t panic. Green is good. Turns out, there are no bad colors. Makes life a lot easier that way.

  26. Happy SITS day! I totally agree that learning about your natural inclinations is very valuable stuff. I’ve had my type done (ENTP) and it really helps me identify my strengths and challenges.

    • Strengths and challenges… so much more lovely than weaknesses. Please stop back Wednesday, it’s my real SITS day.

  27. Visiting from SITS!! Happy SITS day! I’m off to dig through your past posts and read! 🙂

    • I hope you enjoyed the other posts enough to come back Wednesday to see the real SITS day post!

  28. Hey! Just dropping in from SITS and wow, what a fun, different blog!! Love it!

    So….I’m following. 🙂

  29. Visiting from SITS!

    “we take a great deal of pleasure in judging others”

    I almost died on the spot not only is that hilarious but my family is the same way…we just don’t admit it 😉

  30. Yeah, we probably shouldn’t admit it either. It may turn some folks off, especially those who lack sense of humor. I’m glad we made you laugh. That’s the goal!

  31. I love that your the FB for sits. I have four daughters of my own and only one boy, the poor thing. But I am really excited, like you, for the relationship we all have. Even now while they are young. I hope you get your book, and I will be following.
    Thanks!

    • Thanks for following. We’ll try to be continually entertaining!

  32. I love the theme of this. I’ll be back.

  33. We’ll be here! Thanks for stopping by.

  34. I love your blog and using colors to describe your personalities. Years ago I sent samples of my childrens’ handwriting to assess their personalities. It was very interesting

    http://www.FunnyPhotosContest.com. Submit CUTE or FUNNY photos and tell friends to vote. $2,000 in prizes. No entry fee.

    • Yes, we humans are quite fascinating! Thanks for reading and taking time to comment.


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